The Truth About Being A Single Muslim Mother


By Misbah Akhtar
singleThe issue of single Muslim mothers is fast becoming a prevalent one; with divorce on the rise it seems only logical that some of these statistics would also apply to Muslim households.

Why then are they not revered as they deserve to be and instead looked down upon and scorned by many communities? Is it really seen as so contagious that girls from ‘respectable’ families should stay away from these women in case they too, catch it?

Why are these women made to feel humiliated and isolated from their community as if they chose this path for themselves? Being left with no option but to walk is not the same as breaking up a perfectly happy marriage for selfish reasons; only Allah knows the whole truth and what is in someone’s heart so why then do people assume? Continue reading “The Truth About Being A Single Muslim Mother”


Interaction with others reveals
Nothing can be hidden forever
Honesty shows it visibly bright
Dishonesty could be covered
But in due course of time it explodes

Kindness is all about Character in life
Be kind to God’s Creation is Character
When the Character is clean it’s holy
Discipline enhances Human Character

Building the Character is life journey
Character actually begins at home
Walks through learning and practicing
Once Character is lost everything is lost!

(சங்கம் அப்துல் காதர்)by ராஜா வாவுபிள்ளை

Preamble photo puts Modi-government in a fix


New Delhi/Mumbai: An uproar erupted Wednesday over a Republic Day government advertisement featuring the preamble of the Constitution sans the words “secular” and “socialist”. But Shiv Sena suggested the words be removed permanently.

While the opposition Congress party asked the government to apologies, the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP)-led government defended itself, saying the picture of the original preamble in the advertisement was as it came into force Jan 26, 1950, two months after being adopted by the Constituent Assembly Nov 26, 1949.

Shiv Sena leader Sanjay Raut, however, welcomed the exclusion of the two words from the 66th Republic Day advertisement issued by the Ministry of Information and Broadcasting.

“We welcome this. Though it may have occurred inadvertently, it was like honouring the feelings of the people of India. If the terms were mistakenly deleted this time, we want them to be removed permanently from the Constitution,” Raut told media persons. Continue reading “Preamble photo puts Modi-government in a fix”

Days before election Maharashtra state appoints popular faces in Minority commission and Wakf board

By A. Mirsab,,

Mumbai: A day before the Election Commission announced dates for the assembly elections in Maharashtra; the state government appointed Muslim popular faces into 3 important minority institution s- Wakf Board, Minority Commission and Maulana Azad Economic Corporation.

State government issued notification with the names on Thursday which include well known personalities from Ulema and community thinkers. Three members were appointed in state wakf board, two in Maulana Azad Economic Corporation and four in state minority commission.

Maharashtra Minority commission members

Ex-Vice Chancellor of Darul Uloom Maulana Ghulam Muhammad Vastanvi, Shia cleric Zaheer Abbas Rizvi (Mumbai) and Muhammad Mahboob Shaikh (Aurangabad) have been given responsibilities of the state wakf board. These posts were vacant since long time.
Continue reading “Days before election Maharashtra state appoints popular faces in Minority commission and Wakf board”

Terrorism Has No Religion!

Quotation-Manmohan-Singh-religion-terrorism-friends-Meetville-Quotes-132014Holy war, suicide bombings, fighting for faith, and killing in the name of God—from Crusaders to terrorists, from sacred shrines to New York City, history is tainted by a grave disease afflicting humankind. While all the known religions of the world call for LOVE, PEACE, TOLERANCE, FREEDOM OF BELIEF AND MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING, many of the terrorists’ acts are committed in this world by people who call themselves religious, and attribute their horrendous and evil acts to the religion. However, God condemns their acts in the scripture. The true religion of Islam forbids the killing of innocent people, irrespective of the cause—religious, political or social beliefs. This is stated in the Quran, the holy book of Muslims.

  • [Quran 6:151] “…You shall not kill — GOD has made life sacred — except in the course of justice. These are His commandments to you, that you may understand.”

    The laws of the scriptures that apply to the Christians and Jews are repeated and emphasized for the Muslims also.

  • [Quran 5:32] “…we decreed for the Children of Israel that anyone who murders any person who had not committed murder or horrendous crimes, it shall be as if he murdered all the people. And anyone who spares a life, it shall be as if he spared the lives of all the people. …”
    All Religions Condemn Terrorism

    The religion of Submission (Islam in Arabic) should not be confused with what these terrorists have done. The terrorist organizations such as Al-Qaida who kill innocent people are actually, by the definition of the Quran, not Submitters (Muslims), but plain murderers. Who would like to describe Hitler or the likes of Ku Klux Klan as good Christians? We should not let our emotions overcome our logic and understanding. There is no religious scripture that does not condemn terrorism. Every righteous person in any religion would condemn such actions regardless of terrorist’s race, country or religious background.
    True Islam

    What is the ideal of Submission (Islam)? The term “Submission” (i.e., Islam) is not a name that defines you as better than your neighbor or rewards you a special status with God. The name itself is an Arabic word derived from the meaning to surrender or submit. It means submission to God’s will. It is a way of life that guides your actions and forms your character. Submission is a state of awareness and appreciation of God’s boundless attributes. As your soul submits, you are able to practice the meaning of peace, compassion, love, forgiveness, and charity that are recommended by God. The shades of superiority, prejudice and judgment fade as the world comes into focus with the eyes of your soul. In Islam, the best among us in the sight of God is not the white or the black, the male or the female, a person who calls himself or herself Christian, Jew, or Muslim, but rather, the one who is the most righteous.

    Submission to God alone is a way of life encouraged from the time of Abraham by Moses, Jesus, and Muhammad, messengers who have followed Abraham. The one who is able to surrender the soul is called a Muslim in Arabic, or Submitter. There are Submitters to the Creator in every faith. They are those who place no limits on their belief in the Unseen and impose no judgments on the different forms of striving towards attaining God’s mercy. This common striving encourages unity within a diverse group of people who advance their personal strides by learning from one another.
    Righteous People in All Religions

    Thus, the love of God is not reserved for people of religious sects or denominations that cling to an exclusive belief of guaranteed “salvation.” God’s infinite love flows to the charitable, righteous, benevolent, equitable, and the just: Those who recognize their accountability and work towards being good.

    [Quran 2:62] Surely, those who believe, those who are Jewish, the Christians, and the converts; anyone who believes in GOD, and believes in the Last Day, and leads a righteous life, will receive their recompense from their Lord. They have nothing to fear, nor will they grieve.
    from: Kalam Kader

    Lactation Room Serves Breastfeeding Moms

    momfeedingchildBreastfeeding moms who delay their education because of the lack of space or privacy to feed their babies no longer have to worry.

    Starting in the fall of 2012, Edmonds Community College launched a pilot program for a lactation room on campus for the convenience of breastfeeding moms. Located in Brier Hall 246, the lactation room is a private, cozy setting, where breastfeeding moms can go to tend to their babies in a relaxing environment without the fear of being interrupted.

    Breastfeeding moms, who need this service, should go to the Center for Student Engagement and Leadership (CSEL) office located in Brier 252, and schedule an appointment.

    The project idea was initially brought up by Kristina Madden, a former student at EdCC. Madden was a mother of three and her biggest challenge was juggling her school and schedule as a breastfeeding, working mother of three.

  • In the beginning of fall 2011 she took her idea to the Executive Board who turned her to the Committee of Student Services and Facilities.

    Jennifer Delia, Executive Officer for Diversity, was chairing that committee. Being pregnant at that time, she was very open to the idea and immediately started the process of looking into a space for the lactation room. After extensive searching, surveys and an agreement with the Board, a decision was made to launch a pilot program for the duration of one year.

    One of the study rooms in the Triton Student Center was changed into a lactation room funded by the Campus Green Team. Madden and Felicia Cain, part-time staff of the Running Start Office and pregnant mom, furnished the room together spending just a little under three thousand dollars. The room includes a hospital grade pump provided from Snohomish County.

    Madden’s involvement in this project was dedicated and extensive. She studied about the immunobiology of breast milk in her honors classes and worked as a breastfeeding peer counselor at Women, Infants, and Children (WIC). The idea for the lactation room was originally brought up from a public health perspective.

    Whether one breastfeeds or bottle feeds their baby, is a mother’s choice, but the health benefits from breastfeeding are many.

    Breast milk has antibodies and other ingredients that protect the baby from illness, feeds the baby’s brain, giving the baby a strong immune system, and prepares it for a lifetime of healthy digestion. (Breastfeeding Coalition of Washington)

    In addition to helping the baby, breastfeeding has many benefits to the mother as well, including lowering the risk of developing Type 2 diabetes, and breast and ovarian cancer. It also burns calories helping the mother to return to her pre-pregnancy weight faster. (Breastfeeding Coalition of Washington)

    The idea to create a lactation room on campus was done to provide opportunities for breastfeeding moms to able to breastfeed and continue with their education, but it was also done with all these health benefits in mind.

    Cain wants to primarily help improve the education about lactation and health by forming committees with the students, faculty and staff so that ultimately more women will breastfeed.

    “That’s kind of the overall goal. Not just increase the usage of the room, which is hopefully a side-effect of more women breastfeeding.” Cain said.

    Apart from helping the infant and mother from breastfeeding, there is an impact on the population as a whole when a mother chooses to breastfeed.

    According to a statement from a 2010 study in the “Pediatrics” journal, “U.S. could save $13 billion annually in medical and other costs if 90 percent of families breastfed their infants exclusively for six months.”

    Based on this study, one can see that breastfeeding is a much cheaper option, not just for the family, but for the entire population.

    “It’s more sustainable as well,” Delia said. “Not all of them [women] can breastfeed for whatever reason, but if more women could try to breastfeed, then that’s going to have a big impact on the Earth.”

    As of now, there are only about three to five regular women who use the room. Though more women are using the room every quarter, there are still many breastfeeding moms on campus that they feel they are not reaching.

    Cain believes that this due to a combination of things, one of them being that many moms still don’t know about it.

    Delia explains that they have done several events, and worked on increasing signage, but she believes that having people spread the word is what will really help get more moms to the lactation room.

    One of the other problems that Cain believes there is is that there is probably a misunderstanding about what exactly a lactation room is and the benefits of breastfeeding, and why one should support it.

    Through the committee that Cain wants to form, she hopes to get a good group of individuals, mothers who support breastfeeding and understand its benefits, to help educate the EdCC community about the lactation room and the benefits of breastfeeding through meetings and other such events.

    As of now Delia is working hard towards convincing the board to extend the pilot program for the lactation room for one more year, hoping by then to have reached out to more breastfeeding moms or even bottle feeding moms who want to try the alternative with the given opportunity.

    The opening of the lactation room has had positive responses not only at EdCC but other colleges as well.

    After the publicity of EdCC’s lactation room in the Everett Herald, Everett Community College has opened up a lactation room on their campus. Other colleges have contacted EdCC, seeking more information about this room, leaving a much needed positive impact on a community college level.

    According to Delia, UW has 15 lactation rooms. But for a university it doesn’t seem to be unusual.

    “It seems that looking at other universities; it’s not uncommon to see lactation rooms for students and staff.” Cain said. “[But] it seems uncommon on a community college level, which doesn’t make sense since there are more moms going to community colleges to further their education.”

    When asked through a survey about the lactation room services, one young woman commented how she would have delayed her education for two years if this service wasn’t provided.

    “It’s an educational barrier.” Delia said regarding this instance.

    She emphasizes the importance of having a support system for breastfeeding moms. It’s a full load for those moms who have to breastfeed every two to three hours and trying to manage their school work amidst this.

    Getting the support from the workplace, school, and the community is crucial.

    “We have support for all the different diverse populations on campus and breastfeeding moms are a diverse population.” Delia said. “They don’t represent every person, but they’re out there.”


    Published in The Triton Review, Vol. 29, Issue 3, May 27, 2013

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