Muslims Have Their Own Facebook

Muslims Have Their Own Facebook

— A group of South African Muslims, upset about a series of anti-Islamic groups on Facebook, have created an alternative: Muslimbook.com.

The new website is almost identical to Facebook, offering users a chance to interact with each other – but in a way that is respectful of Islamic laws and conventions.

The site’s close resemblance to Facebook is to ensure the migration from one to the other is easy for users, say its creators.

Its front page offers users the chance to “connect and share with the people in your life”, and is decorated with small icons of people wearing scarves and veils.

One of its creators, Zaid al Mansouri, says on the site that the theme is registered and does not infringe any copyright.

Several anti-Islamic groups have been created on Facebook, including one called “I hate Islam” and another which mocks Muslim women for wearing veils.

Other Islam-themed social networking sites already exist, including Madina.com.

Source: iol.co.za

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Know Your English……interesting info

From:
Faizur Hadi

Hi Friends,

SOMETHING VERY INTERESTING

Letters ‘a’, ‘b’, ‘c’ ‘d’ do not appear anywhere in the spellings of 1 to 99, (Letter ‘d’ comes for the first time in Hundred)

Letters ‘a’, ‘b’ ‘c’ do not appear anywhere in the spellings of 1 to 999, (Letter ‘a’ comes for the first time in Thousand)

Letters ‘b’ ‘c’ do not appear anywhere in the spellings of 1 to 999,999,999, (Letter ‘b’ comes for the first time in Billion)

Letter ‘c’ does not appear anywhere in the spellings of entire English Counting

Just Try……… ……… ……… except
C ..for….CASH !!

THE MOST UNFORTUNATE GROUP~DEDICATED TO ‘GROUP SEVENTY’

by mthago

Who is the most unfortunate person in this world and in the life hereafter? No one would like to be the most unfortunate person but somehow or rather someone along the line will become the most unfortunate persons in this world. Who is the most unfortunate person? The person could be you or the person close to you or known to you. A person, who has realized in this world that he or she is among the most unfortunate person, still got the time to mend his or her life. He or she can repent and start to follow the correct path in this world and become successful. In case the realization only known after we have passed this world then the realization brings no benefit to his or her life. The one who is the most unfortunate person is the one who has received guidance from Almighty Allah, yet he or she deliberately chose the wrong path because of their love of this world.

These people claimed that they are the people who received guidance yet they are the people who have gone astray from the true path. They pretend to be the people who believe in Allah and His Prophet yet in their heart they do not believe in Allah and His Prophet. They are the hypocrites, the enemies of Allah and those who believe in Allah and the Prophet. Allah mentions about them as the people who are walking in the dark night and occasionally they see their path when the lightning is striking. When the lightning strike, they see their path because there is light and when there is no light they return to the darkness. The hypocrites are the people who have no guidance and when they are with the Muslims, there is some light and when they are among themselves, they return to darkness. The hypocrite hates Allah, the Prophet and the believer. They always make plan on how the believers and the Muslims can be defeated and destroyed. Outwardly, they will try to look more Muslims than anyone else does. They talk and acts like Muslims when they are with the Muslims but in their heart, there is no iman.

Allah has mention in the Quran that, the hypocrites are trying to deceive Allah and the believers. Surely, these unfortunate peoples cannot deceive Allah and the believers. Although they are in the wrong path and have no guidance but they still think and believe that they are in the correct path. Allah has sealed their heart and they cannot see the light of truth. Allah has made their heart hardened and they are unable to receive guidance. No matter how much explanation about the truth given to them, they will not receive guidance. Allah has sealed and makes their heart hardened because they have deliberately chose the wrong path when Allah has already shown them the truth path. When a person has received guidance from Allah, he has received the greatest blessing of Allah and there is no other greater blessing than guidance. Whenever we receive blessing from Allah we have to be very thankful to Allah and as a sign of our thankfulness, we have to be obedient to the orders of Allah and to do all the orders of Allah only with the intention to please Allah.

The Truth Of The Life Of This World

What is the life of this world but play and amusement?
But best is the home in the hereafter, for those who are righteous.
Will you not then understand?
(Surat al-An’am: 32)

Chapter 1

The Life of This World

Our universe is perfectly orderly. Countless billions of stars and galaxies move in their separate orbits yet in total harmony. Galaxies consisting of almost 300 billion stars flow through each other and, to everyone’s astonishment, during this gigantic transition no collisions occur. Such order cannot be attributed to coincidence. What is more, the velocities of objects in the universe are beyond the limits of man’s imagination. The physical dimensions of outer space are enormous when compared to the measurements we employ on earth. Stars and planets, with masses of billions or trillions of tons, and galaxies, with sizes that can only be grasped with the help of mathematical formulae, all whirl along their particular paths in space at incredible velocities.

For instance, the earth rotates about its axis so that points on its surface move at an average velocity of about 1,670 km an hour. The mean linear velocity of the earth in its orbit around the sun is 108,000 km an hour. These figures, however, only relate to the earth. We encounter tremendously larger figures when we examine dimensions beyond the solar system. In the universe, as systems increase in size, velocities also increase. The solar system revolves around the centre of the galaxy at 720,000 km an hour. The velocity of the Milky Way itself, comprising some 200 billion stars, is 950,000 km an hour. This continual movement is inconceivable. The earth, together with the solar system, each year moves 500 million kilometres away from its location of the previous year.

There is an incredible equilibrium within all this dynamic movement and it reveals that life on earth is based on a very delicate balance. Very slight, even millimetric variations in the orbit of heavenly bodies could result in very serious consequences. Some could be so detrimental that life on earth would become impossible. In such systems in which there is both great equilibrium and tremendous velocities, gigantic accidents may happen at any time. However, the fact that we lead our lives in an ordinary way on this planet makes us forget about the dangers existing in the universe at large. The present order of the universe with the almost negligible number of collisions of which we know, simply makes us think that a perfect, stable and secure environment surrounds us.

People do not reflect very much upon such matters. That is why they never discern the extraordinary web of interlocking conditions that makes life possible on earth nor do they apprehend that understanding the real aim of their lives is so important. They live without even wondering how this vast yet delicate equilibrium ever came to be.

Nevertheless, man is endowed with the capacity to think. Without contemplating one’s surroundings conscientiously and wisely, one can never see the reality or have the slightest idea why the world is created and who it is who makes this great order move with such perfect rhythms.

One who ponders these questions and grasps their importance comes face to face with an inescapable fact: the universe we live in is created by a Creator, whose existence and attributes are revealed in everything that exists. The earth, a tiny spot in the universe, is created to serve a significant purpose. Nothing occurs purposelessly in the flow of our lives. The Creator, revealing His attributes, His might and wisdom throughout the universe, did not leave man alone but invested him with a significant purpose.

The reason why man exists on earth is recounted by Allah in the Qur’an as follows:

He Who created death and life, that He may try which of you is best in deed: and He is the Exalted in Might, Oft-Forgiving. (Surat al-Mulk: 2)

Verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: So We gave him (the gifts) of hearing and sight. (Surat al-Insan: 2)

In the Qur’an, Allah further makes it clear that nothing is purposeless:

Not for (idle) sport did We create the heavens and the earth and all that is between them! If it had been Our wish to take (just) a pastime,We did not create heaven and earth and everything in between them as a game. If We had desired to have some amusement, We could have found it in Our presence, if We would do (such a thing)! (Surat al-Anbiya: 16-17)

The Secret of the World

Allah indicates the purpose of man in the following verse:

That which is on earth We have made but as a glittering show for the earth, in order that We may test them – as to which of them are best in conduct. We made everything on the earth adornment for it so that we could test them to see whose actions are the best. (Surat al-Kahf: 7)

In doing so, Allah expects man to remain His devoted servant all through his life. In other words, the world is a place where those who fear Allah and those who are ungrateful to Allah are distinguished from each other. The good and the evil, the perfect and the flawed are side by side in this “setting”. Man is being tested in many ways. In the end, the believers will be separated from the disbelievers and attain the Paradise. In the Qur’an it is described thus:

We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.Do people imagine that they will be left to say, ‘We believe,’ and will not be tested? We tested those before them so that Allah would know the truthful and would know the liars. (Surat al-‘Ankabut: 2-3)

In order to have an understanding of the essence of this test, one needs to have a deep understanding of one’s Creator whose existence and attributes are revealed in everything that exists. He is the Creator, the Possessor of infinite power, knowledge, and wisdom.

He is Allah, Allah – the Creator, the Maker, the Bestower of Forms.Giver of Form. To Him belong the most beautiful names: whatever isnames. Everything in the heavens and on earth, declare His glory: and He is the Exalted in might, the Wise.earth glorifies Him. He is the Almighty, the All-Wise. (Surat al-Hashr: 24)

Allah created man from clay, endowed him with many features, and bestowed many favours upon him. Nobody acquires the traits of seeing, hearing, walking or breathing by himself. Moreover, these complex systems were placed in his body in the womb before he was born and when he was without any ability to perceive the outer world.

Given all these traits, what is expected of man is to be a servant of Allah. However, as Allah makes clear in the Qur’an, the majority of people are “wrongdoers” and “ungrateful” to their Creator, for they refuse submission to Allah. They suppose that life is long and that they possess the individual strength to survive.

That is why their purpose is to “make the most of their lives while they last”. They forget death and the hereafter. They endeavour to enjoy life and to attain better living standards. Allah explains the attachment of these people to this life in the following verse:

As to these, they love the fleeting life, and put away behind them a day (that will be) hard. (Surat al-Insan: 27)

	In the Qur’an, the last remaining authentic revelation which guides humanity to the true path, Allah repeatedly reminds us of the temporary nature of this world, summoning us to clarity of mind and consciousness. Indeed, wherever we live, we are all vulnerable to the devastating effects of this world, a self-explanatory phenomenon for people who observe life and the happenings around us. This is also true of all the attractions surrounding us. The pictures in this page are each a demonstration of this fact. Any corner of the world, no matter how impressive, will be exposed to unavoidable deterioration in a few decades, sometimes in even shorter periods of time than one would have ever expected.
	Everything on earth is destined to perish. This is the real nature of worldly life…

Disbelievers endeavour to taste all the pleasures of this life. Yet, as the verse implies, life passes very quickly. This is the crucial point that the majority of people fail to remember.

Let us think about an example to further clarify the subject.

Know Your English……interesting info

From: Faizur Hadi

Hi Friends,

SOMETHING VERY INTERESTING

Letters ‘a’, ‘b’, ‘c’ ‘d’ do not appear anywhere in the spellings of 1 to 99, (Letter ‘d’ comes for the first time in Hundred)

Letters ‘a’, ‘b’ ‘c’ do not appear anywhere in the spellings of 1 to 999, (Letter ‘a’ comes for the first time in Thousand)

Letters ‘b’ ‘c’ do not appear anywhere in the spellings of 1 to 999,999,999, (Letter ‘b’ comes for the first time in Billion)

Letter ‘c’ does not appear anywhere in the spellings of entire English Counting

Just Try……… ……… ……… except
C ..for….CASH !!

In any pronouncement the word “Q” will never come alone,and it always comes along with “U” eg., Question,Queue,Queen,Quality etc.

THE MUSLIM HAS A SENSE OF HUMOUR

THE MUSLIM HAS A SENSE OF HUMOUR

Dr. Muhammad Al-Hashimi

The Muslim has a sense of humour, which makes people like him. He mixes with them and jokes with them when it is appropriate to do so, without going to extremes or saying anything hurtful. Similarly, when he is serious, he does not go to extremes of harshness and strictness. His humour is within the limits of Islamic tolerance, and does not go beyond the bounds of truth. This is the example of the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) and the Sahabah in their jokes and humour. It is reported that the Sahabah said to the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam): “You are joking with us.” He said, “But I never say anything but the truth.” (Bukhari)

The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) used to joke, but he never said anything but the truth in his jokes. The Sahabah took the same approach to humour. There are many delightful reports about the jokes exchanged between the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) and the Sahabah. Among the stories related in the books of hadith and sirah is the report that the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) used to joke with the small child of one of the Sahabah, a boy called Abu ‘Umayr, who had a small bird he used to play with. One day he saw the child looking sad, so he said, “Why do I see Abu ‘Umayr looking sad?” The Sahabah told him, “The nughar [a small bird, like a sparrow – author] which he used to play with has died, O Messenger of Allah.” The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) began to gently joke with the child, saying, “O Abu Umayr, what happened to the nughayr?” [Nughayr: diminutive of nughar. – author.  In Arabic, this is a play on words, because of the rhyme between the boy’s name and that of the bird. – Translator. This story was reported in Hayat al-Sahabah, 3/149]

A man came to the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) to ask him to give him a beast to ride. The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) jokingly told him, I will give you the offspring of a she-camel to ride.” He said, “O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam), what will I do with the offspring of a she-camel?” The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said: “Are riding-camels born except from she-camels?” [Reported by Ahmad, Abu Dawud and al-Tirmidhi, with a sahih isnad.]

Imam Ahmad reported from Anas (radhiallahu `anhu) that there was a man from the desert people whose name was Zahir. He used to bring gifts from the desert to the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam), and in return the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) would provide him with whatever he needed when he went out to fight. The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, “Zahir is our man of the desert, and we are his town-dwellers.” The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) loved him very much, and he (Zahir) was an ugly man. One day the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) came to him whilst he was selling some goods. He embraced him from behind. The man could not see him, so he said, “Let me go! Who is this?” Then he turned around and recognized the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam), so he tried to move closer to him once he knew who it was. The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) started to say, “Who will buy this slave?” Zahir said, “O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam), you will find me unsellable.” The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, “But in the sight of Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) you are not unsellable,” or he said, “But in the sight of Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) you are valuable.”

DOWRY : The Greatest Evil Of The Day

“DOWRY” this five lettered word has become a monstar today. May be this is not a new disease, an old one,, but only recently it,has been turned into a life taking disease. This is hightime that proper diagnosis should be made and effective step should be taken immediately to free our society from this illness.

Dowry is much more dangerous than AIDS and Drugs. AIDS kills one individual and the-same with drugs also but Dowry kills the entire society. That’s why in the olden days people use to kill their daughters as soon as they were born and female infanticide was prevalent in all the societies. The horrors taking place in the modern times prove that those people were right in doing so. Let us think about the origin of this disease. Where from it came and since how long it is prevalent and in which part of the world it is more vehement.

If we delve deep into these questions we come to the conclusion that “It Is not confined to one particular area but it is a contagious disease. It is there since time immemorial in some form or other all over the globe”

Dowry (Dahej/Hunda) as we all know is paid in cash or kind by the bride’s family to the groom’ s family along with the giving away of the bride (Kanyadanam). The ritual of Kanya-danam is an essential aspect in Hindu marital rites: Kanya = daughter, danam = gift. A reason for the origin of dowry could perhaps be that the groom and his family had to take up the ‘onerous’ responsibility of supporting the bride for the rest of her life.

Bride-price on the other hand involves the receipt of presents, in cash or kind, by the bride’s family in return for giving away of the bride. Hence bride-price has the character of an exchange.

One feature about dowry and bride-price that is conspicuous is Bride-Price was prevalent among the tribals, Vaishyas and Shudras whereas dowry was prevelent amongst Brahmins and Kshatriyas. We can only conjecture as to why this curious combination could have come into being.

It may not be too exaggerating or harsh of saying the ancestors of Tamil Muslims were mainly Hindus. This is the truth, which we have to confront when we retrace our roots. The many customs and traditions we are observing and practicing today are the living proof to that reality.

One such ‘tradition’ that bonds us eternally with our Hindu brethren is the demanding of the scornful and contemptuous gift called dowry in our Tamil Muslims weddings. Begging for dowry from the bride’s family by the bridegroom’s is not an Islamic practice and when they talk about their daughter’s marriages, with great pride they talk about gold, cash, land etc., They offer all these things as Dowry to their prospective in – laws.

In the beginning people did not give more importance to Dowry because of economic viability. Economically people were Sound. They did not think about the constraints. Giving dowry was considered as a part of rituals performed during marriages. Now only people have become conscious of this evil because of the economic constraints they face in the day-to-day life. This evil is not at all encouraged and patronised by any religion. In fact this is created by man and now man himself is its greatest victim. It is not confined to one religious group. This menace has engulfed almost all the religious groups of the world. As I have already mentioned above, that it is a globel disease but its impact on Asian Countries is much more visible. It is very much in vogue and practised in these countries.

Who is responsible for this? This is a very big question mark before us. This disease is fed and nourished by the economically viable section of all the communities. More than 90% among this group are the supporters of this menace. They offer Cash, Gold, both movable and immovable wealth to purchase husbands for their daughters. Naturally this affects the middle class and the lowest strata of Society. If at all this should be curbed the rich section of our Society should take a bold step in this direction. Unless they come forward it is impossible to contain this menace.

In India though Dowry is prohibited by law in 1961, the extraction of Dowry from the bride’s family prior to marriage still occurs. When the dowry amount is not considered sufficient or is not forthcoming, the bride is often harassed, abused and made miserable. This abuse can escalate to the point where the husband or his family burn the bride, often by pouring kerosene on her and lighting it, usually killing her. The official records of these incidents are low because they are often reported as accidents or suicides by the family. In Delhi, a woman is burned to death almost every twelve hours. The number of dowry murders is increasing. The lack of official registration of this crime is apparent in Delhi, where ninety percent of cases of women burnt were recorded as accidents, five percent as suicide and only the remaining five percent were shown as murder.

The vital role in this regard should be played by prospective grooms. They should take a vow that they will not accept any amount as Dowry from the Bride’s side. The parents of the grooms should also be involved in such oath taking process. Somehow, some serious steps should be taken in this regard. Anti – Dowry propoganda should be made in a war footing. Public awareness campaigns should be conducted. Anti Dowry message should reach the remotest corners through conferences Television, Radio, Newspaper and-other Media.

Importance of Marriage

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” Al-qura’n (30:21)

Du’a Nisfe-Sha’baan-ul-mu’azzam (supplication of the mid-Sha’baan)

Du’a Nisfe-Sha’baan-ul-mu’azzam (supplication of the mid-Sha’baan)

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Translitération :

Bismillaahir-rahmaanir-rahiim.

Allaahumma yaa zal-manni walaa yumannu ‘alaÿhi. Yaa zal-jalaali wal ik’raami. Yaa zat-twawli wal in’aami. Laa ilaaha illaa anta zwahral-laaji-iina wa jaaral mustajiiriina. Wa amaanal khaa-ifiina. Allaahumma in kunta katabtanii ‘indaka fii ummil kitaabi shaqiyyann aw mahroumann aw matw’roudann aw muqtarann ‘alayya fir-rizqi famhu. Allaahumma bifadwlika shaqaawatii wa hirmaanii wa twardii waqtitaara rizqii wa athbitnii ‘indaka fii ummil kitaabi sa’iidan-marzouqan-muwaffaqan-lil khaÿraati. Fa innaka qulta wa qawlukal haqqu fii kitaabikal munzali ‘alaa lisaani nabiyyikal mursali. Yamhullaahu maa yashaa-u wa yuthbitu wa ‘indahu ummul kitaabi. Ilaahi bit-tajalliyil a’zwami fii laÿlatin-niswfi min shahri sha’baanal mukarrami. Allatii yufraqu fiihaa kullu amrinn hakiim. Wa yub’ramu antakshifa ‘anna minal balaa-i maa ta’lamu wa maalaa ta’lamu wamaa anta bihi a’lamu. Innaka antal a’azzul akramu. Wa swallallaahu ta’aalaa ‘alaa sayyidinaa wa mawlaanaa Muhammadin-wa ‘alaa aalihi wa swahbihi wa sallama. Walhamdu lillaahi rabbil ‘aalamiin.

Translation:

In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful.

O Allah, you are the only one who supply all benefits and no other creature can equalize you or even do similarly. O you to whom belong all Majesty and whom is Merciful. O you who exempt your grace generously. You are the only one worthy of worship. You who is the support of those who stumble. You who is the protector of the weak and the consolator of the afflicted.

O Allah, if you register my name in the famous book of the books which I will be mislaid or deprived of your graces, then O my lord, I beseech you in the hope that you modify my destiny and that you register me as somebody who will be well parcelled out, pious and having resources and abundance.

In fact, your word in the holy Koran which you sent to us on behalf of the holy Prophet  is veracious. You erase what you want and you confirm what you want and the book of the books belongs to you.

O my creator, to you belongs glory and majesty, during this sacred night of the middle of the month of Sha’baan as you carry out the distribution of all and that you decide of all, moves away me from all these plagues which are known to me as well as those which are unknown to me but you are the only one to know and you are the benefactor of excellence.

May the favours of Allah ta’ala be on our leader Muhammad and on his descendants and his companions with greetings of peace (salaams). Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

Bismillaahir-rahmaanir-rahiim.

Allaahumma yaa zal-manni walaa yumannu ‘alaÿhi. Yaa zal-jalaali wal ik’raami. Yaa zat-twawli wal in’aami. Laa ilaaha illaa anta zwahral-laaji-iina wa jaaral mustajiiriina. Wa amaanal khaa-ifiina. Allaahumma in kunta katabtanii ‘indaka fii ummil kitaabi shaqiyyann aw mahroumann aw matw’roudann aw muqtarann ‘alayya fir-rizqi famhu. Allaahumma bifadwlika shaqaawatii wa hirmaanii wa twardii waqtitaara rizqii wa athbitnii ‘indaka fii ummil kitaabi sa’iidan-marzouqan-muwaffaqan-lil khaÿraati. Fa innaka qulta wa qawlukal haqqu fii kitaabikal munzali ‘alaa lisaani nabiyyikal mursali. Yamhullaahu maa yashaa-u wa yuthbitu wa ‘indahu ummul kitaabi. Ilaahi bit-tajalliyil a’zwami fii laÿlatin-niswfi min shahri sha’baanal mukarrami. Allatii yufraqu fiihaa kullu amrinn hakiim. Wa yub’ramu antakshifa ‘anna minal balaa-i maa ta’lamu wa maalaa ta’lamu wamaa anta bihi a’lamu. Innaka antal a’azzul akramu. Wa swallallaahu ta’aalaa ‘alaa sayyidinaa wa mawlaanaa Muhammadin-wa ‘alaa aalihi wa swahbihi wa sallama. Walhamdu lillaahi rabbil ‘aalamiin.

Translation:

In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful.

O Allah, you are the only one who supply all benefits and no other creature can equalize you or even do similarly. O you to whom belong all Majesty and whom is Merciful. O you who exempt your grace generously. You are the only one worthy of worship. You who is the support of those who stumble. You who is the protector of the weak and the consolator of the afflicted.

O Allah, if you register my name in the famous book of the books which I will be mislaid or deprived of your graces, then O my lord, I beseech you in the hope that you modify my destiny and that you register me as somebody who will be well parcelled out, pious and having resources and abundance.

In fact, your word in the holy Koran which you sent to us on behalf of the holy Prophet  is veracious. You erase what you want and you confirm what you want and the book of the books belongs to you.

O my creator, to you belongs glory and majesty, during this sacred night of the middle of the month of Sha’baan as you carry out the distribution of all and that you decide of all, moves away me from all these plagues which are known to me as well as those which are unknown to me but you are the only one to know and you are the benefactor of excellence.

May the favours of Allah ta’ala be on our leader Muhammad and on his descendants and his companions with greetings of peace (salaams). Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

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“Must Have’s” in Every Relationship

By  for Muslim1st.com

Assalam Alaykum,

I receive many emails,husband having problem with wife,wife having problem with husband…

so,here are few things listed,you must verify that these things are available between you and your partner or not,if something is missing or very low,then work on it…InshahAllah you will get benefit…and don;t forget to make dua to Allah SWT for clearing all issues…

May Allah make this post useful for the readers!

Ameen

Faith

The most basic and essential attribute of a Muslim marriage is the common faith that binds the couple. Since Islam is a way of life and not just a religion confined to weekly worship it becomes an integral part of a Muslim’s life. The religious frame of reference shared by the couple creates an ease of communication and a sharing of values that is not possible in an interfaith marriage. It is highly recommended that faith play an important role in developing a loving relationship. For example: As the Prophet Muhammad said that when a husband feeds his wife, he gets a reward for this act and Allah increases the bond of love between them. So when we love each other for the sake of Allah (SWT) we actually increase our faith.

Forbearance

Sabr is the most useful tool to have in managing a healthy lifestyle. Being patient and forbearing puts us in a proactive frame of mind it brings us closer to Allah (SWT) through tawakul and reliance. We develop an inner mechanism that empowers us to handle life’s difficult moments. As Allah states in surat Al-Asr “Surely by time humans are at loss, except those who believe and do righteous deeds and counsel each other to the truth and counsel each other to patience [sabr].”

Friendship With Your Spouse

This aspect of marriage has three components. The first is to develop a friendship with our spouses. The relationship based on friendship is more able to withstand outside pressures. We honor, trust, respect, accept and care for our friends, in spite of our differences. These are the aspects of friendship we should bring to our marriages. Unfortunately one highly inappropriate aspect that people think of bringing to their marriage is the buddy scenario. Shariah has placed the husband in a leadership role within his family and this requires a certain decorum, which cannot be maintained if the spouses consider each other as pals. This should not be taken to mean that husband is a dictator, but a shepherd who is responsible to and for his flock. This is a position of grave responsibility and places an enormous burden on the husband. Furthermore, the children need to see their parents as friends, but not as pals as this encourages disrespect.

Friendship With In-Laws

The second aspect of friendship is to have friendly relations with in-laws. When couples compete as to whose parents are more important it becomes a constant source of grief. Much valuable time is wasted trying to convince one another of whose parents are most desirable. It is better if we accept that our spouses will not fall in love with our parents overnight just because we want them to. As long as they maintain relationships that are cordial and based on mutual respect, we should not force the issue.

Couple Friends

The third aspect of friendship is our circle of friends. It is ok to have individual friends of the same gender but couples must also make an effort to have family friends so that they can socialize together. If there is friction being caused by a certain friendship it must not be pursued at the expense of the marriage. Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) advised us to choose God-fearing people as friends, since we tend to follow their way. Friends should be a source of joy and not mischief.

Fun

Couples that do not laugh together have to work on sharing some fun times. The Prophet was known to play with his wives. A simple walk in the park can add much spark to the relationship. Taking up a sport together or watching appropriate funny movies is another way of sharing a laugh.

Financial Plan

One of the most common points of contention in marriages is money. Experts tell us that 80% of marital conflicts are about money. It is therefore highly recommended that the couple put serious time and effort in developing a financial management plan that is mutually agreeable and is reviewed every six months or so. Preparing a budget together is also a helpful and wise way to handling household finances. It should be remembered that the wife’s money in Islam is hers to do with as she pleases and therefore should not be considered family income unless she chooses to contribute it to the family.

Respect For Family

Parenting can be a stressful experience if the parents are not well informed. This in turn can put extra pressure on the marriage. Sometimes couples are naive about the changes that come in lifestyle. This can cause depression in some cases, and resentment and misunderstanding in others. One golden rule that must always be the guide is “family comes first.” Whenever there is evidence that the family is not happy or not our first priority, it is time to assemble at the kitchen table and discuss the situation with open hearts and open minds.

Couples who have elderly parents have an added responsibility to take care of them; this can also be very stressful if the couple is not prepared. A care plan must be worked out with respective siblings and parents as to who will be the primary care giver and what type of support network they will have. In case of mental incompetence a power of attorney must be in place. The making of a will is essential.

SY Quraishi becomes the first Muslim Chief Election Commissioner of India

By TCN News,

New Delhi: The President of India has today appointed the senior Election Commissioner, Shahabuddin Yaqoob Quraishi as the Chief Election Commissioner [CEC] in the Election Commission of India. With this the lone and first Muslim Election Commissioner SY Quraishi, got glory to become the first Muslim Chief Election Commissioner of India.

He will assume the office with effect from the 30th July, 2010 as the present Chief Election Commissioner Navin B. Chawla will leave the office on attaining the age of sixty- five years on 29th July, 2010.

63-year Quraishi who has already served the Election Commission for more than four years, will enjoy the prestegious post of CEC a little more than two years. He was appointed as Election Commissioner on June 30, 2006.

Born on July 11, 1947, in Delhi, he is an IAS officer of 1971 batch from Haryana cadre and had worked in the governments both centre and state levels giving special contribution in the areas of social sector reforms covering health, education, population, drug abuse and civil society action. Before being Election Commissioner he also served as Secretary of Union Ministry of Youth Affairs and Sports.